Dinner Party | Why It’s Your Responsibility To Show Up With New Stories

“I don’t need new stories. I just get new friends” – M. Fryia

Last week we promised a theme for every month, well it’s the first Tuesday of the month and time for a new theme. The focus for the next 30 days is on Preparedness and we’ll be attacking it from all sides, starting as always with Mindset. 

As his strength coach, I’ve asked the very best hockey player in the world what hand he shoots. I’ve sent a resume after a Churchill-esque amount of wine full of more spelling errors than properly spelled words. I’ve showed up to fights without a jock – in case you aren’t well versed at combat arts it’s a pretty important piece if you’ve even thought about procreating one day in the future. 

See what I’m getting at? 

Despite living and working in professional sports, an area of the world that requires maximal preparation – think of a 4-year Olympic cycle, or the 12 weeks leading up to a boxing title fight – I was often unprepared. I believed the action to be unimportant, an ‘I’ll figure it out when I get there’ mindset combined with some leftover childhood, ‘it’s cool not to try’ attitude was likely the culprit, and as a result, I suffered. Did I fail in those endeavors? No, not usually but it took me a lot longer to get where I wanted to go. 

That all changed with dinner parties.

I alternate between excitement and anxiety every time I’m invited out for dinner with a group. I love the camaraderie that comes with long tables full of people who are well-fed with glasses of wine in hand but also shift uncomfortably in my seat thinking about what we, and I, will discuss. After all, it’s just a dinner, and you should show up and see where the conversations go. Well, kind of… If you attend a dinner party, even if it’s with only a couple of your oldest friends, and don’t bring new stories or interesting ideas you owe the host an apology and best offer to put on the next dinner to make up for the blunder. 

I realize that this sounds ridiculous. After all, I just told you that we were going to discuss the importance of being prepared, but I can’t think of a better and easier example than dinner parties. 

Every time you’re asked to attend a dinner, you are being invited to join in an experience. You are not being asked to sit and eat. You can do that by yourself at home in your underwear with a cell phone in one hand and two-day-old pizza in the other. No. You are being asked to share and engage. Someone offered to cook for you or take you out, and in exchange, you owe them a level of stimulation and intrigue. 

Know what interests them, do some research, and ask intelligent questions. If you don’t what their opinions are then ready your own and be ready to discuss them at length, free of malice. Have interesting personal stories to tell, combine them with things you’ve read, watched, or heard. 

It doesn’t mean that you have to dominate the room, but it does mean that when you’re called on, you can contribute in a meaningful way. You’re prepared for your dinner companions.

This exercise comes from a chef I spoke with, and I love it because it teaches you a few invaluable lessons. Firstly, it better to be prepared. Remember that famous quote that your coach would repeat ad-nauseam, or perhaps it was laminated on a poster in a classroom. 

“It’s better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one than to have an opportunity and not be prepared” – Whitney M. Young Jr.

Whitney wasn’t wrong. Seizing opportunity is intoxicating; it breeds confidence both in yourself and in others and helps create more opportunities. It might be more pertinent to change the quote to “It pays to be prepared…” as many great careers have started with unexpected breaks followed up by exceptional performances. 

Eminem is arguably the greatest rapper of all time, a kid from Detroit he got his start when one of Jimmy Iovine’s interns saw him rap battle. He brings Jimmy a cassette, Jimmy shows it to Dr. Dre, and they fly Eminem out. On the first day, on the first beat, sitting in Dr. Dre’s basement, Eminem starts spitting out lyrics to “My Name is”, the first single from The Slim Shady LP which has sold over 18 million copies world wild. 

The tricky thing about exceptional performances is that they don’t come innately, we do not rise to the occasion but sink to the level of our preparation. Eminem – Marshall Mathers – had been cutting his teeth in every possible scenario leading up to the opportunity, from rap battles to empty shows, he was prepared for the moment and now lives the life he wishes because of it. 

Being prepared also drives you to learn. If every time you show up to dinner, you commit to bringing something new, you have to do the learning new stuff part beforehand. This cycle is addicting. The more you learn, the more people enjoy being around you and speaking with you. That reinforces confidence and improves the likelihood that you will continue learning and growing. How we conduct ourselves in one area of our life carries over to all others. Preparation, like everything else, is about repetitions and like all things that require repetition it’s monotonous and I (we) often don’t enjoy doing it. So, change the game. We make it about dinner and others, and that action of bringing new stories to the dinner party can begin to alter and improve your life. 

If you want to learn how to be prepared, and in the process improve yourself start showing up to dinner parties with stories worth telling.

#108 – Joyous Health | Food, Beauty, and Business – A Holistic Entrepreneur


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  • The Stretch Therapist said “what a great time – informal, raw and just an all-around good time.”

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We are joined this week by a leader in the fitness industry and someone who truly has an inspiring attitude and outlook on life. Nsuani Baffoe is the manager of GoodLife fitness downtown Toronto and shares with us some of the greatest lessons he has learned over his career from mentors like Goodlife founder Patch. From playing NCAA football, growing a personal training business to helping others in the business elevate their game. He is refreshingly honest and personally accountable for every one of his actions. Please enjoy this week’s episode! 


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A product created out of necessity and is trusted by athletes like Connor McDavid, Brooke Henderson, Rosie MacLennan, and Andrew Wiggins. They have a full line of products, including their signature High-Performance Sports Drink and Advanced Recovery Formula Protein plus a brand new rooster of Biosteel Green Powder.

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A product created out of necessity and is trusted by athletes like Connor McDavid, Brooke Henderson, Rosie MacLennan, and Andrew Wiggins. They have a full line of products, including their signature High-Performance Sports Drink and Advanced Recovery Formula Protein plus a brand new rooster of Biosteel Green Powder.

Living like a champion requires championship nutrition and there’s no one we trust more.

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We care about food…a lot, and after having truLOCAL on the podcast we were stoked to throw a couple of their Ontario raised steaks on the BBQ. We loved them and couldn’t wait to try the rest of their amazing products and wanted to give you a chance to try them too.

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  • Paulwall2837 said “Genuinely get excited to listen! Great topics and great flow, Adrian and Sylvia definitely know how to keep you interested!”
  • The Stretch Therapist said “what a great time – informal, raw and just an all around good time.”
     

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Episode 100 and we couldn’t be more excited to share it. We are joined today by a man that wears more hats in a week than most do in their life. Real Estate Agent, Entrepreneur, CBD advocate and soon to be a band member.

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A product created out of necessity and is trusted by athletes like Connor McDavid, Brooke Henderson, Rosie MacLennan, and Andrew Wiggins. They have a full line of products, including their signature High-Performance Sports Drink and Advanced Recovery Formula Protein plus a brand new rooster of Biosteel Green Powder.

Living like a champion requires championship nutrition and there’s no one we trust more.

Enter Promo Code – ChampLifestyle at www.biosteel.com for 15% Off the Next Order

truLOCAL

We care about food…a lot, and after having truLOCAL on the podcast we were stoked to throw a couple of their Ontario raised steaks on the BBQ. We loved them and couldn’t wait to try the rest of their amazing products and wanted to give you a chance to try them too.

To celebrate our new partnership head over to truLOCAL.ca and use the code word CHAMPIONSHIP10 for $25 dollars off a regular box! We don’t think you’ll be disappointed.


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Champ Community

Hear what other Champions have been saying about the Podcast
  • I’m a fan of information and value. There are only a few podcasts I rock with that are worth the time, JRE with Joe Rogan, Championship Lifestyle, Think Space with Joss Biggins, Gary Vee Audio with Gary Vee etc. We should be auditing everything, audit the BS out of your podcasts and your ear. I’m rocking with this podcast pretty much every day”
  • Paulwall2837 said “Genuinely get excited to listen! Great topics and great flow, Adrian and Sylvia definitely know how to keep you interested!”
  • The Stretch Therapist said “what a great time – informal, raw and just an all around good time.”